Divorce: A positive or negative?
November 19, 2018
The Mirror reporter
The stigma of a divorce doesn’t have one dimension. The question is how do most people view it?
Unhealthy relationships can have an effect on the household. If you have kids and constantly argue that can have a major impact on everyone including the way your children develop.
The six major reasons for divorce are infidelity, money problems, addictions, extraordinary situations such as incapability, and irreconcilable differences.
If you have children can those reasons affect their life?
Yes!
Some of the negative divorce consequences are due to the transition a child has to make between a two home family, financial custody and emotional support.
Bad divorces have an effect on a child’s school performances and result in low school grades and aggressive behavior with their peers. In many cases, teenage children even drop out of school and get into drugs.
It has also been studied that these negative effects are more evident in boys than in girls. Boys tend to have greater issues when dealing with broken homes. They reflect more aggressive behavior and are less focused in school, resulting in fights with peers. Girls, on the other hand, exhibit higher rates of depression which hinder their concentration level at school.
Most “pro-marriage” factions will try to tell you that divorce hurts children. I personally think that divorce can really be the best thing for a couple in an unhealthy relationship.
Robert Emery, Ph.D., who wrote, The Truth About Children and Divorce, does an excellent job comparing the two extremist views about whether divorce does or doesn’t harm children and says “the truth is somewhere in the middle.” He goes on to say that, in cases where the parents do argue often, divorce can actually be a relief to the children because they no longer have to live with all the tension they had experienced.
Children are much smarter than people give them credit for, particularly when it comes to feeling the effects of the emotions surrounding them. Your kids will easily be able to tell when you and your spouse are unhappy, and the last thing you will want is for them to think they should settle for anything less than happiness.
No matter how you see it, strenuous relationships are huge causes of deteriorating health. A bad relationship can become incredibly stressful, and there is only so much stress that your body can take. In fact, dealing with chronic stress can result in premature aging, cancer, heart disease, and death. Therefore, it is important that you keep your mind healthy, then you can make sure your body is healthy as well.
Divorce will equip you with phenomenal coping skills which will prepare you for many different situations in the future. You will finally have a strong understanding of what you need in life, how much pain you can handle, and how to avoid toxic relationships.
I’m not saying that divorce is something you should strive for when you plan to get married but people tend to just jump into things right away without getting to know the person they choose to marry.
Take a big step back when it comes to marriage. It’s a lifelong commitment that requires you to be 100 percent on board with when trying to complete it. Divorce rates are very high and really makes this day and age look really bad and causes people to lose a lot of hope when it comes to wanting to eventually get married.
Always, before you choose to have kids make sure, make sure your relationship is solid. I know that problems will come up and eventually life will change but before you give up do everything in your power to fix the relationship. If that doesn’t work, then it is OKAY to get a divorce.
Hlee • Nov 27, 2018 at 11:00 AM
I agree with you. Divorce does have bad effects on the kids, but to have to live through a life of your parents constantly arguing and fighting one another is much harder than accepting the breakup of your parents. I, too also feel that should a parent decide to have kids, they should make sure that their relationship with one another is solid.
Willow • Nov 26, 2018 at 11:11 AM
Love the article! Divorce is such a hard thing to go through no matter the age you are.
Bryant VanRossem • Nov 26, 2018 at 10:42 AM
If you have an unhealthy relationship you should do what’s best for you and everyone. But great article! and it’s very well written.
Lauren Huebner • Nov 26, 2018 at 8:04 AM
I totally agree with your article. If you are in an unhealthy relationship divorce might be what’s best for everyone. And it is so true that kids can pick up if parents are unhappy with each other.
Soren Luther • Nov 25, 2018 at 8:46 PM
This is a very serious and controversial topic in many ways. There are so many factors that should be taken into account when people decide to have kids. Hopefully, our generation can figure out some of these problems. Keep up the good work.
Madison Rindahl • Nov 25, 2018 at 4:24 PM
Great article! The title really captured my interest and I think divorce is very serious. I think it is very unfortunate when couples get a divorce because the commitment they made, in the beginning, was not kept. Everybody has there own opinion on whether divorce and I think the most important thing is that we respect each other’s views.
Rachel Placeway • Nov 25, 2018 at 1:20 PM
I think it’s a very well written article. However, you seem to contradict yourself a few times. Nonetheless, I like the information you provided to support your point.
Aiden Price • Nov 20, 2018 at 10:43 AM
i agree with this 100% if you’re in an unhealthy relationship then do what’s best. and that you need to be ok with your choices. definitely don’t jump into anything
Justice Chukwuemeka • Nov 19, 2018 at 10:40 PM
There is a repetition on the first sentence of your last paragraph, otherwise good information. Will really help for future plans.